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Any Major Dude Will Tell You…
Any major dude with half a heart surely will tell you my friend
Any minor world that breaks apart falls together again
When the demon is at your door
In the morning it won’t be there no more
Any major dude will tell you
– Steely Dan
This blog is for all the dudes out there who have found (or are finding) themselves at a crossroads somewhere in that gray area we call “midlife.” It may be the loss of a job that thrusts you into the position of considering a complete career change, or a divorce that occurred at a time or manner not of your choosing. Or, perhaps you finally had to face your mortality when your doctor told you that the time has come to dramatically alter your lifestyle in order to ward off an untimely dirt nap. Whatever it is, the most important thing to remember is that you are hardly alone out there – we all come to this crossroads sooner or later. As you look back on your life and everything that has brought you to where you are today, the only relevant question becomes not what you would have, should have, or could have done, but what will you do now, looking forward? Take heart – because if you properly apply the wisdom from all those lessons learned, your best years may very well be ahead of you.
“You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream.”
– (C.S. Lewis didn’t really say this, but it’s still a good quote to be inspired by..)
Dudes@Midlife 
Jun 23, 2012 @ 09:56:42
You had me at the Steely Dan quote. I guess it dates me. Any thoughts on mid-life women listening in on your insights?
Jun 23, 2012 @ 10:00:35
I’d love it! Candy, I hope it gives you some insight about what makes us tick, especially when the midlife time-bomb is going tick-tock…
Jun 23, 2012 @ 10:18:25
I’m in my 50’s and recently lost my job. My Mom died two weeks later. So even though I’m a woman, I can relate to much of your work. Will follow!
Jun 23, 2012 @ 10:32:45
Thank you, Susan. I am so sorry for your two big losses. I hope you can soon replace the one that is replaceable, and remember always this quote as you grieve the loss of your mother:
“What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love becomes a part of us.” – Helen Keller
I keep that one close at all times – as we get older, we experience more and more the loss of people we know and love. Write about her, and honor her. The best example of this that I can think of is A Twist of Lemmon: A Tribute to My Father, written by Chris Lemmon to memorialize his father, Jack.
A big hug to you,
– G
Jun 23, 2012 @ 12:45:51
I wonder if you notice I’m the 3rd women to comment! How right you are – maybe – about men. However — as for me, I’m well beyond mid-life, so far over that hill, I’ve got all the teeshirts there ever were. So many I’ve given up wearing them. And the good news is; Life only get better and better, lighter of heart, younger and younger, if you keep on living as a creator. So keep writing, dude.
Jun 26, 2012 @ 13:21:42
ES – I hope you and Michael will continue to follow. I’d enjoy hearing your perspectives…
Jun 23, 2012 @ 13:01:00
There are no palliatives for the mid-life crisis, but here are a few quotes: ‘Mid-life is the moment of greatest unfolding.’ C.G Jung. ‘Men are like wine; some turn to vinegar but the best improve with age.’ Pope John XX111. ‘The unexamined life is not worth living.’ Socrates. ‘Breakdown – since I know nothing at all, I shall simply do whatever occurs to me.’ C G Jung.
From Michael, my husband, age 65.
Jun 24, 2012 @ 10:15:02
Much appreciated! Thank you.
Jun 24, 2012 @ 22:39:34
Dude, I love the name of you blog. Also, your taste in tunes. I signed up.
Jun 24, 2012 @ 22:48:54
Hi Darlene – I’m honored! Sincerely. I hope you enjoy the reads…
– G
Jun 25, 2012 @ 08:24:14
Your blog gives a good sense of the everyday world.
Jun 25, 2012 @ 08:26:35
Thank you, Veleta – I invite you to follow. It’s about to get a bit more interesting, particularly if you’re a writer…
Jun 25, 2012 @ 18:53:40
I almost blew this blog site off when I saw it was written by a Dude. Really, how refreshing of you to do this. I am in.
Jun 25, 2012 @ 21:51:09
Thanks for the smile, Maurita – I hope it lives up to its promise! Or lack thereof…
Jun 01, 2022 @ 21:59:08
I recently underwent a life-shattering divorce. I have lost myself since November 22, 2021.
Jun 02, 2022 @ 12:42:39
Hi Brody – Thank you for reaching out – the first year is always the hardest. I have your email address, so will drop you a line here soon.
Hang tough,
– G
Jul 07, 2022 @ 06:59:40
Thanks, look forward to what’s ahead….will try to go thru your archives. Found you on Truth.