Any Major Dude Will Tell You…

Any major dude with half a heart surely will tell you my friend

Any minor world that breaks apart falls together again

When the demon is at your door

In the morning it won’t be there no more

Any major dude will tell you

– Steely Dan

This blog is for all the dudes out there who have found (or are finding) themselves at a crossroads somewhere in that gray area we call “midlife.”  It may be the loss of a job that thrusts you into the position of considering a complete career change, or a divorce that occurred at a time or manner not of your choosing.  Or, perhaps you finally had to face your mortality when your doctor told you that the time has come to dramatically alter your lifestyle in order to ward off an untimely  dirt nap.  Whatever it is, the most important thing to remember is that you are hardly alone out therewe all come to this crossroads sooner or later.  As you look back on your life and everything that has brought you to where you are today, the only relevant question becomes not what you would have, should have, or could have done, but what will you do now, looking forward?  Take heart – because if you properly apply the wisdom from all those lessons learned, your best years may very well be ahead of you.

“You are never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream.”
– C.S. Lewis


14 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Candy Korman
    Jun 23, 2012 @ 09:56:42

    You had me at the Steely Dan quote. I guess it dates me. Any thoughts on mid-life women listening in on your insights?


    • gdude777
      Jun 23, 2012 @ 10:00:35

      I’d love it! Candy, I hope it gives you some insight about what makes us tick, especially when the midlife time-bomb is going tick-tock…


  2. Susan
    Jun 23, 2012 @ 10:18:25

    I’m in my 50’s and recently lost my job. My Mom died two weeks later. So even though I’m a woman, I can relate to much of your work. Will follow!


    • gdude777
      Jun 23, 2012 @ 10:32:45

      Thank you, Susan. I am so sorry for your two big losses. I hope you can soon replace the one that is replaceable, and remember always this quote as you grieve the loss of your mother:

      “What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love becomes a part of us.” – Helen Keller

      I keep that one close at all times – as we get older, we experience more and more the loss of people we know and love. Write about her, and honor her. The best example of this that I can think of is A Twist of Lemmon: A Tribute to My Father, written by Chris Lemmon to memorialize his father, Jack.

      A big hug to you,
      – G


  3. esdragon2llis
    Jun 23, 2012 @ 12:45:51

    I wonder if you notice I’m the 3rd women to comment! How right you are – maybe – about men. However — as for me, I’m well beyond mid-life, so far over that hill, I’ve got all the teeshirts there ever were. So many I’ve given up wearing them. And the good news is; Life only get better and better, lighter of heart, younger and younger, if you keep on living as a creator. So keep writing, dude.


    • gdude777
      Jun 26, 2012 @ 13:21:42

      ES – I hope you and Michael will continue to follow. I’d enjoy hearing your perspectives…


  4. esdragon2llis
    Jun 23, 2012 @ 13:01:00

    There are no palliatives for the mid-life crisis, but here are a few quotes: ‘Mid-life is the moment of greatest unfolding.’ C.G Jung. ‘Men are like wine; some turn to vinegar but the best improve with age.’ Pope John XX111. ‘The unexamined life is not worth living.’ Socrates. ‘Breakdown – since I know nothing at all, I shall simply do whatever occurs to me.’ C G Jung.
    From Michael, my husband, age 65.


  5. Susan
    Jun 24, 2012 @ 10:15:02

    Much appreciated! Thank you.


  6. darlenecraviotto
    Jun 24, 2012 @ 22:39:34

    Dude, I love the name of you blog. Also, your taste in tunes. I signed up.


    • gdude777
      Jun 24, 2012 @ 22:48:54

      Hi Darlene – I’m honored! Sincerely. I hope you enjoy the reads…

      – G


  7. veleta hayles
    Jun 25, 2012 @ 08:24:14

    Your blog gives a good sense of the everyday world.


    • gdude777
      Jun 25, 2012 @ 08:26:35

      Thank you, Veleta – I invite you to follow. It’s about to get a bit more interesting, particularly if you’re a writer…


  8. Maurita Corcoran
    Jun 25, 2012 @ 18:53:40

    I almost blew this blog site off when I saw it was written by a Dude. Really, how refreshing of you to do this. I am in.


    • gdude777
      Jun 25, 2012 @ 21:51:09

      Thanks for the smile, Maurita – I hope it lives up to its promise! Or lack thereof…


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